A few days ago I read this beautiful poem by Kahlil Gibran talking about marriage. Marriage as an emotional and human bond between two persons.
On Marriage – Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
It is commonly believed that we are to become complete once we meet our soul mate. For ages, soul mate has been perceived as the ultimate manifestation of true love and pure, unconditional, effortless and endlessly powerful connection with our significant other. I have to admit that I belong to those romantic fools who believe in the value of soul mate. But under one condition. They have to be soul – mates. They will not fulfil my soul, but they will walk with me in my path. And since we are free to change our minds and take different paths at any time in our finite live, our soul mates can be infinite. They can be our families, the ones connected by blood and those we choose to connect with. They can be our lovers, who come and leave. They can be ourselves. Through difficult times, we realise that our only asset is our soul. Our mind and heart, ourselves. It is an irreplaceable asset, unique and non negotiable. It is our truth, our reason and purpose to live, our inner strength that supports us in our decisions and mistakes, in our passion for life and our dreams. Our destiny map. And this asset is hard to find, it is inside each one of us but so hard to be found, cause we have learn to look around us not inside us, we have learn how to interact with others, not ourselves. It is less hard to be someone for the others, than someone you choose for yourself. But once you turn your eyes inside your body, your universe, your limitless stars, you will be showered by your light. Your very unique and whole soul mate. That soul mate can wonder in life with other soul mates and still be complete, one, untold, infinite and bold.
That is my theory, my wish to all couples out there: prove mathematicians wrong by being 1+1 = 1